June 1, 2012 - Life As I See It-
The Bad Boy/Bad Girl Tragedy
by James Perrigo
Why do people that SAY you want a nice guy/girl, but fall for the bad apples over and over and over again? I mean honestly, how many times do you need to get burned before you realize you shouldn’t play with that kind of fire?
I will honestly never understand why some people stay with someone that has cheated or is totally disrespectful of you. Wanting
an edge is understandable, and having a heated argument is normal and
often beneficial, but I don’t know of anyone that has been with someone
that treated them like crap, and then one day the abuser woke up, looked
around, and said “Damn, what I’ m doing is wrong. I’m stopping today.” And then actually did it. It NEVER works that way.
I think of myself as a nice guy. I am not sure if I was born like that or my parents made me that way. I do know that I believe in the golden rule of treating others the way I want to be treated. My mother did not allow anyone to treat her like a subordinate. The reason is simple. She isn’t. Not to me, my father or anyone else.
Don’t
think you are going to change someone into what you want either. You
shouldn’t want a nice girl, then think you are going to change a bad
girl into one. If you go in wanting to change them, then they will resent you. You
knew when you saw her at the bar doing a keg stand and flashing anyone
that would buy her a shot while dancing like a stripper to “Pour Some
Sugar on Me” that she was probably not going to be someone that you
could take home to mom. That isn’t what drew you to her. It was likely the dancing like a stripper or the flashing. And that’s ok. I’m not saying that girl isn’t the one for
you. Just don’t get pissed when this girl that has obvious bad girl tendencies keeps those bad girl tendencies.
Believe me I fully understand the excitement of wanting someone that has an edge to them. I
did that a time or two, but in the end I wanted a life partner, and
equal, not someone that was drama seeking and an all day headache. Let’s be honest. You deserve better. You deserve to be treated well, and you should be happy to see the person you have chosen to spend your time with. If
your special someone is walking all over you like a rug, then maybe
it’s time to find a new special someone so that you can feel like the
special someone that you truly are.
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